This week is the start of our Mompreneur Monday series where we shine a light on a different mom each week.This week our spotlight shines on Anjaik Lynn, Founder of Eternal Sunshine Doula Services and Co-Founder of Millennials Milf’n. Check out our interview below.
1. Tell us a little bit about yourself.
My name is Anjail Lynn, and I am a millennial mama from Detroit, MI. I have a toddler named David Jr. who keeps me busy and on my toes at all times! I recently transitioned from my full time role in corporate America in order to be more hands on with the growth and development of my son, while focusing on my passions and interests. I would like to call myself a millennial mother advocate, which led to me to co-founding a social mom-group, Millennials Milf’n, dedicated to connecting millennial mothers through the sisterhood of motherhood, and creating Eternal Sunshine Doula Services, in which I provide birth and postpartum support to women in the Metro Detroit area.
2. Why did you become a #doula?
I wanted to become a doula shortly after the birth of my son. I actually wanted a doula for my birth, but I did not do any research assuming that it would be an expense that I could not afford due to being a first time mother and not knowing what to expect with having a new baby. My pregnancy itself was fairly smooth, and after delivering my son, I felt an extreme sense of accomplishment. That if I could birth a human, I can literally do anything I put my mind to. I wanted to be for other women what I had during my pregnancy, labor and delivery. My family and friends were very supportive and helpful, and I understand that all women do not have that strong support system when they need it most. That was the seed that grew into me wanting to become a doula.
3. How long have you been a doula?
I have actually been a doula since about June of this year.
4. How many moms do you help at once?
It really depends on the due date of my clients and if that month is a busy month for me personally as well. Since I am still a pretty new doula, I would only take a set number of moms that are due in the same month. I want to make sure that all of my clients have my undivided attention and support, and birth is one of those things that you cannot plan! A due date is just an estimated projection of when the baby is expected to arrive, but the baby can choose to come as early or as late as he/she likes. I keep that in mind as well when booking my clients to ensure I am able to attend every birth.
5. Can you give any advice on how one can become a doula?
Yes! My advice would be to first do your research. A lot of people mix up the responsibilities of a doula and a midwife and how they support the birthing person.
A doula is solely emotional and physical support for the mother during pregnancy, labor, and delivery and is strictly non-medical. Where a midwife is medically trained to provide health care for the mother and actually deliver the baby. Once you have that understanding, you can then look into the different organizations there are in your area in which you can take your doula classes and become certified.
6. What is one thing you know now that you wish you knew at the beginning of motherhood?
One thing I wish I knew at the beginning of motherhood.. That is a tough question! I would say that there is no rulebook or answer key for motherhood. While you can ask many mothers before you for advice about certain things and scenarios, you literally don’t know until you go through every situation for yourself, and keep in mind that every child is different. What may work for someone else’s child may not work for yours. Children are humans too and have their own needs/wants & personalities.
7. How has being a mother impacted your work?
Being a mother has caused me to become super focused and intentional with my time and my work. If it is something that is not pouring into my goals and passions I don’t want to give it my time or energy! Motherhood has also kicked my organizational skills up 100%. As a mother every hour of every day is easily accounted for quickly so you have to stay organized and plan your day. If I’m not utilizing my planner, reminders on my phone, and phone calendars, I feel so unorganized and overwhelmed!
8. What is you number one tip or advice for a new moms out there?
My number one piece of advice for new moms is to be patient with yourself and don’t compare yourself to other moms that you may see in person or on social media that seem like they have it all figured out. You never know someone’s struggle behind closed doors. Don’t ever compare yourself. Move at your own pace and don’t be afraid to ask for help if you need it !
9. What is one of your favorite books?
One of my favorite books is the “Year of the Yes” by Shonda Rhimes. I am an introvert and the book really shed light on how getting outside of your comfort zone and saying yes to opportunities and situations you would normally turn down has the power to literally change your life.
10. What is one thing you do for yourself to relax and unwind?
If I am looking to relax or unwind I love to take a nice hot bath, play some good music and have some good wine! I also love to Netflix and chill. I’m always down to watch a good movie or new series!